"Ultra independence is a coping mechanism we develop when we've learned it's not safe to trust love or when we are terrified to lose ourselves in another. We aren't meant to go it alone. We are wounded in relationship and we heal in relationship."- Jeri Lynn Cohen
Signs of ultra (or hyper) independence
You've an overachiever or addicted to staying busy
You never ask for help
You're incredibly private - especially about your problems.
You don't likeneedy people and you don't like depending on others.
You struggle with long-term relationships
how to overcome ultra-independence
Identify and start to recognize these patterns in work and home life
Cognitive Behavior Therapy is really helpful with resolving trauma and changing the way you think
Do guided meditations to heal trauma
Be honest with people in your life and let them know you're taking steps to change.